we broke up and he got another girl pregnantbeverly baker paulding
It doesnt matter how nicely you do it. I didnt see that it made sense for him to send a check for MY child when he never had even met her. For someone who cant stand a woman and does not want to have a child you think he would make slightly more responsibly decisions. When he got back together with her, he should have had himself tested for STDs, which hopefully he did. When he chose to bust a nut in a stranger he took on that risk. In any event, Im happy to hear what youve shared already! Sure sure you have sex, theres always the possibility of a child. & he tells me now, the mother agreed to take the child & look after the child, & he will leave the baby mama for me, because he loves me. having sex with someone you dont know that well. Her mother supported her and helped raise my sister for the first couple of years. Yet when it came to her most recent boyfriend, John . April 10, 2012, 10:56 am, hes angry with the way this has worked out. You are feeling particularly aggressive or bold. But thats a crime? If this is the case then your friend is in the clear because he has no legal responsibility any more. It means he or she will know their father, in a sense, and will also have the opportunity to believe that their father just simply didnt want to have anything to do with them. April 10, 2012, 11:43 am. It is due to his own stupidity if he thought that a single sexual encounter could not produce a child, that birth control pills would definitely prevent him from impregnating someone or that he could legally opt out if a pregnancy occurred. I think that is a pretty bad guess with how this guys attitude is towards things, and how badley he wants nothing to do with the child. Have you ever seen an episode of the Maury show or any other talk drama show? Dream about boyfriend got another girl pregnant - Dreams`opedia April 9, 2012, 11:08 am. P.S. Get over yourself and get over him. Exactly, so if knowing this you still choose to proceed with anything that could result in a pregnancy you have no one to blame but yourself if you become a parent. But dont be surprised if he gets slapped with child support responsibilities b/c he couldnt be responsible enough to prevent pregnancy it takes two. And as so many others have said dontt want a kid? Just sayin. So, if you insist that men create children, or even assist in such a thing, you are some kind of slimy pro-lifer meddling in the affairs of independent women who need men like a fish needs a bicycle. I dont ever remember being heartbroken about not having a father. But really, no one knows his true reaction. There were no hard feelings). And a grown adult man is well aware of this system when he chooses to have sex. religiously wear condoms. So then, to be clear, your point isnt that gay men are more likely to wear condoms. Now imagine a bunch of people calling you a scumbag for having the temerity to be angry at your friend, arguing that the situation is of your own making since you should have known this was a possibility when you lent out the car. The law does not say men need to be financially responsible if the woman decides he should be. He has a choice he can be a father and split the responsibility with the mother instead of forcing her to have sole responsibility. At the point where he had options he chose one that could result in a pregnancy. I honestly dont believe any of this will ever be an issue for you. Im also a longtime lurker who was a little taken aback by all the vitriol aimed at this mans head. Reframed to show the immaturity of the argument: And most important of all, whats all this talk of ASKING CUSTOMERS to order fries with that? Everyone I know, including myself, that is not ready to have a child uses a condom or doubles up on protection, or makes sure that the pill is taken on damn regular basis. Well, there are more than a million people who have been unexpectedly pregnant in this country, so arguably those risks are higher. What do you think happens to the fetus? Heh, are you suuuuure you still want to be a professional therapist? Its a difficult question. So while support is gender-blind, the points that get you to the question of support arent, which kind of means support isnt either. I see youre an ignorant homophobe too. 17. Iwannatalktosampson 4. Turns out it wasnt even his kid (thats another story), but she showed up at his work, called him repeatedly in the middle of the night, and physically assaulted his friends girlfriend in a parking lot. . Its like people that think women become foster parents for the money. I mean, I know guys are suppose to stick up for guys, but come on.. Guy Friday Her judgment is irrelevant, but it isnt immoral. ha, Ive done too many drugs too. And the world goes round. Life is unfair. Not that hes upset about the situation but furious with this woman. But they should try and work together to create a decent life for the child it does not have to be in a relationship with one another though. 2) A woman having an abortion is not the same as a man refusing to have anything to do with a child. Man, I was having a crappy morning and now I feel SO MUCH BETTER, because Im not this LW. If there was a child at conception, abortion would be murder. Generally it turns into a bunch of bleeps. Thank God for the laws in place protecting children against men like you. Also, he seems willing to abide by the laws. He said he still loves me and that he didnt love her, and it was a mistake. Oops this was meant as a reply to Steve up there! Fair or not, the facts are what they are. But I think shes tried to trap him and hes untrappable.. female Choose. And you know, its pretty reprehensible to be calling this other woman a slew of names. I just personally get outraged that this is the case: that he would have to pay support regardless, but that she can opt out of it. let us know if he had). Not good enough. Men will never have to make that choice. If he doesnt think hed be a good dad, he probably wont be. Shall I and all the other taxpayers? Birth control isnt full-proof. I love him so I'm willing to accept the baby. Clearly it is horribly wrong to lie about that but thats not the argument here. However, hey, feel free to pretend its still 2000 BC. The child support goes to support the child. Your choice. Fortunately, its a well known fact that theres no 100% guarantee with birth control. Think of the children. What if she believes than an abortion is murder? As far as your relationship with him. I have a really hard time believing that this guy who hates this woman and wants nothing to do with this child had a civil conversation with the baby mom discussing their options, while stating his preference for an abortion. If you were driving your car, and looked down at the time, and hit the child would you ask the parents of that child to not report you to the police, because its also there fault for letting there child run in to the street? There are any number of cases where under-age males, 12 years old, 14 years old, 16 years old, get hit for child support because the female teacher who statutorily RAPED them got pregnant. Yeah, I believe that means he must be., I believe the definition of an immature asshole is a 40-year-old man who wont own up to his responsibility to be a father to the baby he had equal part in creating.. Doesnt have to be romantically involved with this woman, but he wants nothing to do with the child that he helped to create, or the woman he cant stand. By that logic, virtually every dude on the planet is an idiot. If hes being deceived then hes a willing participant. Stop this back and forth with him. If a woman has sex with a man she should be prepared for the fact that it could result in her under going a medical proceedure, be it an abortion or childbirth. That goes for women as well. No. April 9, 2012, 12:13 pm. Quit trying to dig into other peoples wallets to subsidize your lifestyle choices. But again the adoption makes that all moot. lets_be_honest iseeshiny Im quite late to the discussion, but I took a lot of time reading over the comments, trying to make sense of the two sides of the argument at hand. Do something to not have one! Therefore, move on. Please do better. But if that rape victim gave birth to the child, dropped it on the rapists doorstep and left, its highly probable that the law would pursue her for child support. So for someone I love and care deeply about, its enjoyable. I would love to pil your brain on this, specifically how your mom handled discussing it with you if you would be Willing to share. Heartbroken People Share Ludicrous Ways They've Been Dumped Exactly where is there a grown-up here? On the other hand, the intelligent men are just avoiding commitment and having fun at YOUR expense. Abortion is incompatible with compelled child support. He said he would do whatever i wanted him to. 10. But woman, grow the hell up. reader, Laura1318+, writes (25 January 2008): A Having placement, on the other hand, does, and what Im saying is that when it comes down to where are the kids going to stay, in situations where everything else is equal, the default position is still with the mother in most courts, with the fathers visitation dependent on how close to equal the two parents are. Yeah, Im with you, pretty much on all counts. Share your opinions and thoughts below! April 9, 2012, 10:48 am. Thats reality. And she doesnt have to be a liar to have been on antibiotics, thus rendering the pill largely ineffective. P.P.S. If someone ahead of you slams on their brakes because they want to read a billboard and you hit them, Id guess youd be not be upset, because its your fault and youre aware that cars ahead of you can stop at any point. This attitude that men become slaves the instant a girl gets pregnant is actually very crazy, in my opinion. The LW said that he is furious that shes keeping the baby. You dont want his problems. I am curious what RR will have to say after some interesting points being made after her comments. Your Turn: "He Got Another Woman Pregnant While We Were on a Break!" But shes having his baby and whether he likes her, loves her, or hates her, that baby is his child. I must respectfully disagree with you. In the end he is a great dad and we are expecting our second.. a Girl:) Hes not obligated to be there emotionally, especially if he made it clear to the woman that he did not want this baby in the first place. Roe v. Wade merely established that abortion is a privacy issues and that a womans right to choose what is done with her body takes precedent over the rights of a state to prevent abortion. Women have two- before sex, and after they find out theyre pregnant. That is not acceptable. Its ironic that some of the same people who fire off insults left and right on this forum, feel so offended when someone simply disagrees with them. I feel like a part of me has died . While We Were on a Break, He Got His Ex Pregnant. Now I'm - The Root What should I do if my boyfriend got another woman pregnant but - Quora And realize that when you have sex, you could very well get someone pregnant.
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